How To DM Someone in Discord

Click on this button at the top-right of the window to open a window with all of your friends.

You can add up to 9 friends to a Group Chat, which, counting you, makes a total of 10 Discord users.

Another way to open up a Group Chat is by adding additional friends to a conversation already in progress. Open up a DM in progress between yourself and a friend, and at the top-right of the window, then click the Add Friends To DM button.

This keeps the DM available between you and the original recipient separate and opens up a new conversation between the two of you and additional friends.

Kicking Members Out of a Group Chat

Any member in the Group Chat can add additional members (up to the maximum). However, only the individual who started the Group Chat can actually kick anyone out of it.

To remove a member from the Group Chat:

  1. To the right side of the window, locate the list of Group Chat members.
  2. Find the member you want to be kicked out and right-click on the name.
  3. From the options provided, choose Remove From Group.

How to DM Someone Who Isn’t a Friend

Assuming you’re on a server with someone who isn’t your friend and you’d like to send them a direct message, it is possible if you follow these steps:

  1. Tap on the icon that looks like two people together. Scroll down and tap on the user that you’d like to message.
  2. Tap on the option to Message.
  3. Next, you can type and send your message like you usually would.

As mentioned previously, if you do not have this option, it’s likely due to the user’s privacy settings. In that case, you can send them a friend request to begin messaging.

Frequently Asked Questions

Here are the answers to more questions you may have about sending messages on Discord.

How do I know who is a moderator or admin on Discord?

If you’re on a server and need to private message an admin or moderator, you can quickly find them in the menu to the right of the Discord chat. Look at the very top of the channel’s members, and you will see those with administrator privileges.

Right-click on the user you’d like to chat with and click Message. Then, you can message the moderator or admin privately.

Can I unsend a DM on Discord?

Yes! If you unsend a DM on Discord, it will disappear for you and the recipient. You can even unsend the message days later. Another neat aspect of Discord’s unsend feature is the recipient won’t receive a notification that a message was removed. This means you can unsend chats, and the recipient will never know.